Are you living your best life?
Let’s first acknowledge that this is a loaded question— that has made billions of dollars in book sales and self-help seminars.
Most people will have an immediate response in their minds.
But then you think about it. You start to wonder what that even means.
Maybe you’re envisioning what your instagram profile looks like— a little reassurance perhaps. Except that is not the way you should begin to think about this question.
Why? Because this isn about what other people see when they see your profile. Your page can represent who you truly are. It can also represent what you want people to see and what you wish you were.
This shouldn’t be a quick answer. It doesn’t and shouldn’t work that way. Some thought is required. What does your best life feel like? Are you already there? When it comes to thinking how, most people hit a wall. Let’s take what your life on social media looks like completely out of the discussion. How do you even begin to think about if you are living your best life? I’m going to help you:
I’m giving you 5 simple ways to find out if you are truly living your best life. Plus a bonus at the end.
Let’s warm-up the mind first. I’m going to ask you to close your eyes, take 20 seconds and in rapid-fire answers, think of five things that you love more than anything in this world. Rapid fire answers as in don’t even think. Just whatever comes in your head. Remember those answers. Let’s begin:
1. Check the last 5 texts on your phone. Are those people draining your energy or are they giving you energy? Are you constantly measuring yourself to those people’s standards? Who you surround yourself with says a lot about how you think of yourself. Is there love in this connection or is it more of a connection to feel validated?
2. What are the first thoughts that come to your mind as soon as you wake up? Do you immediately dread the day or do you wake up instantly filled with joy? Make it a point to get up in the morning and immediately write down your thoughts and be honest with yourself about it. Track what’s really going on in your mind. It set’s the tone for your day, so it’s kind of important.
3. Check your phone’s analytics. Although we are leaving the aesthetics of your platform behind, we need to very much examine the energy you put into it. How long do you really spend on special media? How much of the time is spent looking at other people’s lives and how much time is spend living your own? How do you value your time? There are exceptions of course; if you’re an influencer of some kind and you take complete ownership of the time you invest on those platforms to share a message that means the world to you. Otherwise, look at how this time is spend and if it’s pulling you forward or pulling you back.
4. I give you the one-minute mediation challenge. Try mediation for one minute. Not more, not less. 60 seconds is all I ask for. Set a timer. Seems like nothing perhaps. It is nothing. But here’s the thing: if you’re constantly in a state of worry, anxiety, depression and anger, you won’t last 30 seconds with your eyes closed. Your mind will cave and thoughts will pop into your head about shit that probably doesn’t mean anything, and there will be a body response, maybe in the chest, maybe the stomach, maybe both. If your’e living your best life, then you don’t need to go anywhere in you mind expect where you already are. Especially when it’s only a minute.
5. If today was your last day on this planet, would you still do what you’re going to do? Are you currently on the journey of growth and realization? If the answer is no, then revaluate if where you are in your life is really where you want it to be. Would you still want to be with the people you are with? Do you still care about your current job?
There you go. 5 easy enough ways to find out if you are living your best life. This is not meant to be the absolute truth of it all. But it should open your eyes.
For that bonus one I promised you: Let’s go back to our list of five things you love most in your life. Remember what they are? Tell me something, did you add “yourself’ anywhere on that list? I will leave you with that.