The last year had been one of the most challenging years of my life. It has also been the most transformational. By making the absolute decision to pursue my life’s goal and take my life to another level that I have never realized yet, I understood that things had to change — those things all had to do with my mindset.
It was always easy enough to just dream about being a best-selling author, but those dreams never brought me happiness. It always felt a little to out of hand to reach or work towards. But of course, perspective is everything.
I want to be a best-selling author and further more, I want to build the kind of success that would permit me to continue writing for a living and help people who also feel lost in life. I was committed. I knew that saying I’m committed wasn’t going to be enough because things were about to get harder than ever.
If I was going to achieve this life changing goal, I would need to start learning to love the journey that would take me there. I would need to find happiness in myself despite the times when I would rather stick nails in my eyes — theoretically speaking of course.
These are the 5 lessons I have adopted in the last year while on this crazy journey I have been riding while completing my first manuscript.
Whatever anyone thinks of you, is completely known of your business. It’s simple. If you can get out of your head about how people perceive you, then you are creating more space to work on yourself. Self-judgement is the mother of all your self-sabotage. What you think of you is all that matters.
Entitlement will ruin you. It doesn’t matter who you think owes you what, or that the universe gave you a big fuck you for absolutely no reason. Anytime you think, someone, somewhere owes you something and you are putting that power in anyone’s hands besides your own, you will lose. Every single time. It all comes down to this one principle: You are 100% in charge of your owe life. Nobody owes you shit. And once you understand that, you start to see things much differently. You begin to take more responsibility for your actions.
The greatest power you can ever possess is to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Your desire to feel good is fucking your shit up. Life’s hard. You’re tired. You feel drained. So your brain is looking for the easy way out. It’s in survival mode. It wants you to sleep in, eat shit, play video games, watch reruns of everything on Netflix. Because it’s safe. It’s comfortable. You’ll never want to work hard. But you have to anyways, if you want to change your life. That’s how it works. So get use to being uncomfortable and let it fuel you.
Being kind actually warms the heart. I swear by this. That matters. You’re going through shit and you have your off days. So does everybody else. Sometimes people have reactions and it has nothing to do with you. Depression is running high in this world. Don’t make it personal. Haters exist but there is a reason they hate. They’re not happy. Just be you and be kind, no matter who and what, because everyone is fighting a battle.
Gratitude will set you free. Wake up every morning and write down three things you’re grateful for. We are a society of not enough and wanting more. There are parts of the world without clean water, education, food, and we seek more and more of the same crap that doesn’t really do anything towards our purpose. What we do have has everything to do with our purpose. Gratitude is enlightenment. Start practising gratitude and watch how quickly you begin to work towards your purpose instead of dreaming about it.